idiom · informal

play hard to get

UK/pleɪ hɑːd tə ɡɛt/US/pleɪ hɑrd tə ɡɛt/PLAY HARD to GET

speakingtask2

to pretend to be less interested in someone to make them try harder to get your attention

Examples

She played hard to get, and he spent weeks trying to win her over.

If you play hard to get, some people will invest more effort.

He was obviously playing hard to get when he ignored my messages.

Band 8 sentence

In modern dating culture some people deliberately play hard to get as part of their flirting strategy, but it can backfire if the other person loses interest.

Collocations

  • play hard to get with someone
  • keep playing hard to get

Word family

play hard to get (phrase) idiomplaying hard to get verb phrase

Common mistakes

He plays hard to get me.He plays hard to get (with me).

She play hard to get.She plays hard to get.

Say it for a higher band

5act uninterested6play coy7+play hard to get

Synonyms

play coy

Easily confused

lead someone on

She led him on for months without intending to commit.

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